Letters to Our Children: TheHeir


My Dear Heir, Izibulo LakwaMogale

I call you TheHeir, and this is true you are the first fruits of my belly, you are the first person who ever made me feel like an adult through you, I became a mother.

Letters to Our Children: TheHeir

You will never understand the magnitude of this change and what it meant in my life, for the frist time I was wholly responsible for someone else and it is a scary thing. You are now 9 years old and it is still as scary as the first day I met you.  You are the person who raises the most emotion in me,  I can be angry happy, awed and just surprised all in a matter of minutes. Through you, I have learned to be in awe of the power of Jehovah God, because he created in you, someone like no other, and somehow I ended up being honoured to have you as a son.

This is letter is only for you, not to your brother, he will get his, when the time is right, also  because you and I we have been together too long to let that little upstart come between us LOL. You also know how impatient he is.  I love how patient and loving you are with him, even in the moments where your impulsivity rears its head you always remember to keep him safe, that is amazing. I am sorry for all the times I scolded you to do more with him because you are also still just a child.  Look after your brother as you get older, he will always manage to get into some trouble or other but just be there for him.  I know it is hard to be the eldest and have to look after the crazy ones, but that is how it is for those of us who were born first, Your aunty Jabu and Zodwa were a handful, but I survived 🙂

Letters to Our Children: TheHeir

I just want to remind you that as I bring you up, there will be moments of laughter and of crying and we will fight and you will think I’m unfair and you will one day wonder if I know anything at all. These are the passages we all go through as we find who we are, and establish our places in the world, but through it all may you never doubt my love and adoration for you, and that here with me you will always have a home, a supporter, someone to reprimand you, some to laugh with you and at you, and definitely someone who is saving for all the therapy you are going to need when I am done with you.

Letters to Our Children: TheHeir

Ngiyakuthanda Temogo wami. ngenhliziyo yami yonke, I see so much of myself in you, every day, that it scares me.

Your name Temogo which means “discernment”, I hope you will always be discerning in the choices you make, in the people you are associated with and in your relationships with family, apply the wisdom you inherently have when faced with difficult and challenging situations.  Remember always that you are worthy of love, support and respect, but that you should give the same to those around you. Live an inspired, full life, ukhule uze ukhokhobe.

LLetters to Our Children: TheHeir

You and your brother are the centre of my life and I will die for you and that is a great testament to how I feel about you.  As you know I love music, and you and I we are always singing loudly in the car (when we have managed to dodge your brother) and have the most deeply meaningful conversations.  So I hope you listen to this song sung by another mother and realised why I agree whole heartedly with it.

Thank you to LaShawn for hosting  the Letters to Our children Series, there are lot more mom’s writing these letters and sharing the with their children. Check out the next letter in the series at EverydayEyeCandy

With Deep Love

MOM xoxoxoxoxo

UPDATE: Baby I also wrote a letter to your brother called A Letter to my youngest son

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  • Reply Runaway Bridal Planner

    What a beautiful letter! You sound like an incredible mom, who would do anything for her child. In this world no days, you don’t see that quite as often, and I applaud you for it!
    You have a beautiful family, those are definitely some happy smiles of kids well loved!

    February 17, 2016 at 8:50 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Thank you so much I really appreaciate that comment a mothers love that is something that took me by surprise

      February 19, 2016 at 12:17 am
  • Reply cat@jugglingact

    Oh Lindi – this is simply beautiful

    February 18, 2016 at 8:27 am
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello darling oh thank you so much :*

      February 19, 2016 at 12:13 am
  • Reply Missy - Getting Fit to Find Myself

    What a wonderful letter to your son! I am going to have to go read the other letters in this series. And what a great idea for a series.
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    February 18, 2016 at 5:23 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello Missy thank you so much for stopping by my blog and yes please read the rest of the letters

      February 19, 2016 at 12:11 am
  • Reply LaShawn

    ohhh. there is so much love in this photo. SO MUCH! I love it. Thank you for joining up with us!

    February 18, 2016 at 6:21 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello LaShawn thank you for this great circle I found it so fulfilling to write this letter, looking forward to the next one

      February 19, 2016 at 12:10 am
  • Reply Sarah

    Aw, this is amazing. An amazing idea that I would like to do. Not that I would sound as eloquent as you. I have a three year old boy who’s my whole world too 🙂

    February 18, 2016 at 7:00 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello Sarah thank you so much for your great comment, Yes I join this roundup for the same reason we have so much we dont get to tell our children

      February 19, 2016 at 12:08 am
  • Reply Moipone

    Enjoyed reading the letter filled with so much love
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    February 19, 2016 at 8:58 am
    • Reply Lindiwe Mogale

      Thank you Moipone

      February 19, 2016 at 9:09 am
  • Reply Joyce Brewer (@MommyTalkShow)

    Your boys are so handsome. Thank you for his love letter that’s just for him!

    February 19, 2016 at 1:36 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Thank you Joyce

      February 19, 2016 at 9:06 pm
  • Reply Sarah

    What a beautiful letter to your son. I definitely feel the same about my first born – he’s who made me a mommy, and that relationship will always be different than my relationship with my my daughter. It’s great “meeting” you through the Blog Hop – your family is lovely!

    February 19, 2016 at 10:07 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello Sarah, thank you so much its great meeting you through the blog hop. Yes its a different appreocaution for your first born

      February 23, 2016 at 9:21 am
  • Reply Single Mum Speaks

    This is a lovely post. You sound like a great mum and your children are super-cute! #effitfriday

    February 20, 2016 at 1:12 am
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello thank you so mch for stopping by and the kind words.

      February 23, 2016 at 9:20 am
  • Reply Brandi

    Beautiful letter and beautiful pictures!

    February 20, 2016 at 3:56 am
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello Brandi thank you so much for your compliment it is much appreciated

      February 23, 2016 at 9:19 am
  • Reply Lindsey

    This is a beautiful letter! I can only wish to put down similar words to tell me little boy how much he has changed my life 🙂

    February 20, 2016 at 5:43 am
    • Reply lindiwem

      Hello Lindsey you are a mom the words will come

      February 23, 2016 at 9:18 am
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  • Reply Louida

    Such a beautiful letter!

    February 22, 2016 at 4:30 pm
    • Reply lindiwem

      Thank you Louida

      February 23, 2016 at 9:14 am
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    So beautiful, Lindi.

    April 9, 2016 at 5:28 pm
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